Easing Into Kinky Sex Experience

Many couples are into the oft-maligned "vanilla" sex, referring to sex that is fairly straight up and devoid of any kinky or atypical aspects. But many sex advisors and specialists think that this is due not to a disinterest in kinkier aspects of sex as much as reluctance to admit to having an interest. Men who are interested in some form of kinky sex (and who are prepared to practice good, protective penis care while pursuing it) may find the following sex tips useful in exploring this option.

Be brave.

People build up personas that define themselves. There's nothing wrong with that, but sometimes people get defined in a way that doesn't truly reflect all sides of them. This can be especially true when someone has a desire to move beyond "typical" sexual activities. It can take courage to just broach the subject of this desire, even with a partner with whom one has shared much already. But if delving into this area is important to a man, his first step is to find the courage to take the first step of talking about it.

Don't spring it.

If this desire is going to come as a surprise to a partner of long standing, it's best not to just blurt it out. Finding a way to ease into the conversation is preferred. Some like a "joking" way: When passing a sex shop, a man might say, "Hey, do we have time to pick up a whip and a few penis rings?" in a joking manner. But later on that night, he can refer to that: "You know when I made that joke about the high end sex toys?" and follow up with, "Well, I was wondering if maybe there are some new things we might want to try out some time."

Talk first.

Once the subject has been broached, if the partner is receptive, it's a good idea to talk things through first. Talk about the things that are of interest to both parties. It's good to set up a non-judgmental and honest framework: Both parties should talk about what interests them and how they feel about what interests the other person. Any resistance to participation should be discussed and respected. A partner should also be open about how far he or she is willing to go. And both parties should realize that they are free to change their minds - before, during or after an exploration.

Start slowly.

Most couples find it helps to start slowly. Rather than starting off with props, for example, perhaps a little role-playing with, say, an imaginary set of handcuffs or a faux-leather bra is desirable. Some light rubbing of the posterior might be a good lead-in to actual spanking later.

Pick words.

Safe words are a good idea if the kinky sex gets a little too intense. Participants can choose a word that, if they utter it, means things have moved beyond their comfort level and they should stop now.

Know how things work.

Before employing props in one's sex play, make sure both partners know how they work. For example, a chastity cage for the penis may be fun during some role-playing, but will be less fun if neither partner knows how to remove it.

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